How to Help a Bereaved Mom on Mother's Day

Updated: May 6



Without a doubt, becoming a mother is the single, most cherished accomplishment of my life.  I believe many women who've had children feel the same way. And every May, we celebrate the mothers in our lives, biological or not.  Those women who have cared for us and so many around them.  

But what about all those mothers whose children aren't here anymore? Whether from miscarriage, stillbirth, accident, disease, adoption...they are still Moms. What most people tend to do...is nothing. Say nothing. Avoid the subject altogether. Don't bring up Mother's Day because you don't want to add these bereaved parents' sadness. The thing is, that often tends to make it worse.  To ignore their role of being a mother can be crushing. 


I invite you to a virtual Option B Gathering on Wednesday, May 19th that's created specifically for this awful club we're now in as bereaved parents. It's a safe place among an intimate group of bereaved parents, so far all Moms. You don't have to say a word if you don't want to. Totally up to you how you want to interact. Check out the event info here. I hope to see you then.




If meeting us at our virtual Option B Gathering group doesn't feel right for you, I encourage you to be brave to watch this TEDx Talk on How and Why You Should Talk to Bereaved Parents. I had the honor of delivering this important idea in 2019. In my research for the speech, I learned a new word...vilomah.  It's ancient Sanskrit and means "against the natural order."  A perfect way to describe what being a vilomah feels like.  Our children should not go before us.  In my TEDx Talk, I share the Vilomah Voice Playbook, a simple, three-step process on speaking to bereaved parents, or vilomahs, as I now call myself.


Let’s start a conversation, I promise it will be worth it.

Helpful Websites

Compassionate Friends Bereaved Parents USA

Grief - by David Kessler


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